For mental Health Week this year, #GetReal, it’s all about how to help; with the emphasis on empathy. Empathy can be defined as:
“Empathy is the ability to share someone else’s feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in their situation.”
It’s a simple concept, but I believe it’s what the world is lacking most. If we could see humans through the eyes of those who are different than us, it would help to unite humanity. It’s clear that all anyone wants is to feel seen and heard; without judgement.
Empathy…for some of us it comes easier than others. The good news is; it can be learned and practiced. Empathy is not only about helping others it’s also an emotion that can help us know ourselves better and our own feelings. It leads to connection with others, helps us communicate and support our peers.
One way we can practice being empathetic is by becoming conscious listeners. How can we become active listeners? It really is the art of attention. Listening is done with more than our ears. We must be aware of our partner’s tone, body language and understanding the intention beneath the words. If we use our intuition there’s very often a different message then their words convey. How many times have we asked a loved one how they are doing and they respond with, “I’m fine,” yet, their tone and body language conveys a different message?
When we listen with our heart rather than our intellect, we can identify with our partner’s truth. When we listen with our heart, we practice empathy, which is the secret ingredient in truly understanding others.
When we are showing someone empathy it’s not about what we feel, think, or see as the right thing to do. Rather, it’s about trying to put ourselves in their shoes. It’s important to avoid giving advice or your opinion right away and instead focus on what they are saying and feeling. It’s not about you!
Another great way to increase empathy is by practicing mindfulness. This is being aware, paying attention on purpose, and being in the present moment, in a non-judgemental way.
Lastly, we want to listen to understand, not to judge. We don’t need to find a solution for someone’s problems in order to help them. Difficult emotions can’t be fixed. All we can do is be there, accept them, sit with them through their hard times and difficult emotions while they try and find ways to work through their rough time.
Many times, it’s difficult for us because we don’t know what to say. Empathy is not about our opinions or what we would have done differently. If we’re thinking about ourselves; we are not truly listening. Instead, tune into the other person, and instead of trying to find the perfect thing to say, make sure you are showing empathy. All they need is someone to show they care.
If someone you know is struggling with stress, anxiety or difficult times, the best thing you can do is be empathetic. To do this we must be present, listen closely, understand from their perspective. If we can understand what they need or how we can help, this is what empathy is all about!
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Until next time…practice empathy